The changes are so many that it is impossible to enumerate them, but they are not a sentence but a challenge. And like every challenge, an opportunity to learn, grow, and make ourselves better human beings. Among other things, I remember the following changes that I went through when embarking on my journey through the universe of motherhood and that are common to most of the mothers with whom I continue to grow and “travel”:
- You discover within yourself a force that grabs you by surprise and even scares you by its intensity. You feel like a lioness, prepared to defend your “puppy” with your own nails and teeth.
- You feel a strong, powerful, and profound love within you that sometimes even frightens and confuses you. “Can I love another being like this little creature?” You ask. You will see that yes (and that will be your big surprise when your next child is born).
- Do you begin to understand, respect, and admire your parents like never before in life? “It is not possible that my mother has done all this,” he thought, “with four children, so young and without disposable diapers!”?? And your understanding and gratitude towards them genuinely grow.
- Increase your compassion for all children. Little by little, you become a mother, not only of your children but of all the other children in the world. You can’t stand to see a child suffer in the news, or on a television movie, or in the street.
- In your house, your life, your work … a new order reigns, or rather, disorder. Accepting it is key to your happiness and inner peace, so give it up and enjoy it.
- Discover the pleasure and value of moments of silence, a hot shower at the end of the day, a teacup with a friend, a movie at home with your partner, a night of deep sleep … and you enjoy fund each of those moments.
- You delete the word “disgust” from your dictionary. When your child drops the pacifier on the floor, you pick it up quietly and “clean” naturally in your own mouth before giving it back.
- You learn to master the art of improvisation. You compose incredible melodies, transform your fingers into puppets and invent fantastic and absurd stories to keep your baby entertained (especially when he is tired, bored, or sick).
- Your waistband (and everything left to the north and south of it) is definitely not the same as before, but you are surprised to realize that you are much more interested in your baby’s navel than on your own.
- The hours cease to have 60 minutes, and the days cease to have 24 hours. The time now seems to pass at a new pace (surely due to some art of baby magic), and because of that strange change, you arrive late to almost all your appointments.
- The moments alone with your partner are scarce and brief, but the two learn to enjoy them and take advantage of them, even if a little whiny is about to interrupt them.
- Like a juggler who is adding more and more objects to his act, you learn to do two, three, four, five … things at once, and without dropping any ball!